friends - How many of us have them?

Welcome to today's blog. Do y'all like the changes I made? I tried to get a little more creative. Hope you enjoy the edited version.

So today's blog is about friends. Real friends. It is SO hard to find real friends. We should be prayerful and ask God to place people in our lives that will encourage and edify us. We should also ask that God gives us the dedication and desire to want to nuture our friendships and relationships. In order for anything to grow, you have take care of it and make efforts to sustain what you have built and are building. I believe this is where a lot of frienships and relationships fail. But some of us are guilty for staying in friendships and relationships just because we are too afraid to be alone. We don't even give being alone a chance. If we did, we'd find out that there are a lot of benefits in loving and being with just yourself. You are doing yourself a great disservice if you stay in a friendship or relationship just because you basically can't stand yourself enough to be by yourself. OUCH! I know I am stepping on some toes with that one but it's the truth.

Here's when you know it's time to walk away from a friendship or relationship:

1. You are conforming to what you think a person wants and in turn not being your true self. It's 2012. I don't have time for frontin'. Be the true you 100% of the time.
2. You are doing ALL the work in trying to sustain and build the relationship.   I've said this before and I will say it again, chase after the Lord and your dreams DO NOT chase after anyone. If you or they want the friendship or relationship, put in work!
3. You and your friend or significant other have been talking about the same things for years and no one is evolving. You have to grow in life in order to become your best self. Don't stick with someone who is stunting your spiritual, mental or physical growth. Move around, quickly.
4. You are no longer building one another up. It is true that sometimes you have to encourage yourself but got dog-it, sometimes you need it from others too. Everyone needs some help sometimes, including you.
5. You are always focused on their problems and them and never get to share yourself or your issues. Self-centeredness is an illness. You are not a healer but God is. Walk away and say a prayer that God shows that person how to be a real friend. He can heal them from themselves.

There are many other reasons to move on but these are my top five. Surround yourself with people you love and those people who take the valuable and precious time to love you back.

Miracles and Blessings!